communication

Nice reading indeed. There's an old saying that "Business is all about communication." though a bit of exaggerated.  Also agree with you on understanding. "First to understand then to be understood" is such a rule of thumb.

wow interesting article ^-^

first of all, i think you have some feelings about your javaeye friend... you don't need to answer, just curious... since for a non-techie to keep coming to javaeye w/o clear purpose, that's the only conclusion i can come up with.

we, as prorgammers mostly, communicate w/ machines more than human beings.  in many ways, machines are honest, and they are obedient.  we don't have so much crap such as 勾心斗角 in your daily life.  maybe that's a utopia us programmers can escape to.  we actually like that!  machines never lie, humans do, and they do that very often.  call me a 逃避主义者 if you like, but i do really find my peace of mind in the computing world.  how about you?

莫非是喜欢 但又。。。

love at heart but mouth hard to open.... wahahahah

我是指lz个人信息的爱好...不确定后面的人是否和我相同的意思

at first i want to be a prorgammer for life
After reading LZ's acticle , i find LZ's english is so good, i will  pay my Attention to LZ's BLOG!

I am very glad that you agree with me.

Understanding have several steps:

1. Side-way messages: Before you have chances to talk or communicate to an individual, you may have heard of or collected side-way information or anecdotes about him/her. These related have mixed others' opinions and judgement but still could be taken as one of a resource to understand. And most of understaning we reach when we couldn't talk to a person face-to-face is from side-way messages analysis.

For example, we worship heros or celebrities but we may have no chance in our life to meet them, especially the ones who passed away before we come to life,hahah. Our feelings rise from understanding of their brightness of side-way messages.


2. Appearance judgement: for those who we are luck to meet ourselves, we will be prompt to an apperance judgement. Although our parents chattered a lot about not judging from appearance, we still keep on doing. And it should be considered as a very important factor when we try to find some one to talk in an unfamiliar party or crowd. You are easy to accpet this concept- he looks easy-going and considerate, maybe I could have a try to talk to him; he looks conservative and stubborn, I prefered talking to a monkey to chatting with him.

3. First impression: first impression here means the talking first impression. The topic or hobby your target prefers will have a crucial point on your impression. That is the factor to decide whether this will be the last talk you have with him for the rest of your life.

4. Further communication: When you have listened to his words or stories, you should start contribute to the communication. Otherwise, it will become his speech time or talk-show.

5. Full communication: this is the highest level you reach.

What I am talking here is targeting at the one who is timid to talk or actively to set a target to talk.

Next time I will try to explain more for the above 4 points. Please present your opinions and suggestions.

I am in beijing these weekends and just landed on shanghai. I am so unluck to have the worst pilots in the world. I am dizzy now and please forgive my wording or any unfit points.

First, thank you very much for not imposing me to answer to your specultation.

Second, do you mind if I ask:

1. how old are you? it seems that you have suffered a lot of struggles in life. you are so eager to be in Utopia.

2. what is your vocation? it seems that you are a machine-world assertor.

3. Do you have someone you love, you trust, you respect?

I agree with you that many people may have dreams of Utopia but I definitely disagrees machines are honest and obedient while human beings are not.

Thank you for your curiosity.

But I am very disappointed you only get this meaning from my article.

It is so grateful that you didn't charge any translation fee.