Four People in Our Life

  Life is a process of seeking love. Everyone of us has to find four people: one is my self,the second is the one we love, the third one is who loves us and the last one is who we can spend our life with.

  First of all, we will encounter the one we love most and experience the feeling of love. Due to our feeling of being loved,we will find the one who loves us most.Only after going through loving and being loved will we come to know what we need most and locate the one who fits us most and deserves our lifelong company.

But pathetically, in our real lives, those three people we mention above tend not to be a united one, The one you love tends not to love you and the one who loves you cannot win your love.The one who will stay with you for your whole life is not the ones we mentioned above, but the one who comes to you at the right time.

Then,which one you will become to others? No one intends to change his affection for you.When he loves you, it does. When he does not love you,it is also true. when he loves you, he can never pretend not to love. Similarly when he no longer loves you, he cannot pretend to love you.

  When he does not love you and leaves you, you should ask yourself whether you still love him .If you do not love him any more, never go on continuing the relationship with him out of self-esteem.But if you still love him,you will wish he could lead a happy life with his beloved forever and will never keep him beside you. If you insist on keeping him by you, it means you no longer love him, and if you do not love him, you are not entitled to blame hime for changing mind.

Love does not equals occupation. Your love moon but you can never get it into the basin. But the moonlight can still flow into your room. In other words, If you love someone, you can own him in another way that will keep your love as an immortal beautiful memory.

If you love someone wholeheartedly, you should love him as he is. You should love his strengths, but also his drawbacks. You should not intend to change him into the one your wish hime to be.

True love comes beyond any reason. You wish to stay with him wherever and whenever you are regardless of your mood. True love means two can stay with one another in hardships without any condition. After all, love needs sacrifices, not merely gains. Departing is kind of inevitable test, in which if your love is not solid enough, you have to face the failure without any grudge.


When two lovers are living romantic life,they are inclined to ask the other part to make an oath or commitment. We do so because we do not believe our lovers 100%. We do no believe love fundamentally, and those oaths are impractical. Some oaths like "even though the sea dried, the stone breaks,the earth aged,and the sky ruined,I would never change my love to you",are really absurd,because we all know that the sea will never dries,the stone will never break, the earth will never age and the sky will never ruin.Even thought all of them will come true,we cannot live until then. So when you make an oath, do not make the one that can come true. Please remember that the never-comme-true swear is the most striking one!