视频基础教程之——How To Break Up The Right Way

How To Break Up The Right Way
如何正确的分手

Hello,welcome to VideoJug. Just like the some sads, break up is hard to do. We VideoJug are here to help. Keep waching to find a least painful way to split up with you partner.
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Step 1:
    Courage
    Once you have decided your relationship is not working and want to end it, act immediately. Don't let things carry on, this is unfair on the both of you. Have a long think about why you are unhappy and what you want. Once it is clear in your head you will be able to cope with telling your partner.
第一步：
    勇气。
    一点决定结束你们的关系，立即行动。拖延对大家都不好。仔细考虑为什么你并不开心，你需要的是什么。一旦清晰这一点你就可以着手告诉你的同伴。
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Step 2:
    Arrange to meet
    Set up a specific time and place to meet face to face, explaining that you need to talk. This will likely warn your partner something is wrong, preparing them also.

    Arrange to meet somewhere comfortable to you both, where you can talk openly.

    Don't break up over the phone, or even worse, by text or email. This is cowardly, and will haunt you later.
第二步：
    约会
    选择一个特定的时间和地点，说你有些话需要说。这也可能提醒你的同伴有些事情不太对劲，他也可以做些准备。
    约会的地点应该让你们两个都感觉舒适，你也可以畅快的谈话。
    不要通过电话分手，通过文字或邮件分手更糟糕。这是懦弱的表现，将来你会后悔。
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Step 3:
    Get to the point
    When you meet, don't beat about the bush. Pretending everything is fine, then springing it on them after a couple of hours will be confusing.

    Pick your words carefully to let them down as gently as possible. Be tactful, not brutal.

    Even if there is a third party involved never mention it. This only adds insult to injury.
第三步：
    说出重点。
    见面的时候不要旁敲侧击。假装一切正常几小时后提分手会让很很困惑。
    小心选择你的用词。尽量和蔼，机灵点，不要太残忍。
    如果有第三者，千万不要提及。这样只会增加伤害。
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Step 4:
    Focus on the positive
    They will be hurting and will have many questions. Answer these as honestly as possible but don't get drawn into an argument. Reiterate why you need to break up. Stay calm, even if they don't.

    Let them know what a great person they are and how they deserve someone who can give them what they want - and that person isn't you.
第四步：
    表示肯定。
    他们肯定会觉得被伤害，会有很多问题。尽可能诚恳地回答问题，但是不要造成争论。重申为什么你要分手。不论对方如何，你都要保持冷静。
    让他知道他是一个很不错的人，并值得被人爱——那个人不是你。
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Step 5:
    Don't give them hope
    Stay firm. Be clear that its over. Don't be manipulated into giving it another try - this is not fair on either of you.
第五步：
    不要给他们希望。
    坚决些。表明一切都过去了。不要假装还可以有其他机会——这对你们两个都不公平。
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Step 6:
    Clean break
    Don't arrange to meet up in the near future. You will both need a period to get used to the split and let wounds heal. This doesn't ruling out staying friends but gives you time to adjust and move on.
第六步：
    不拖泥带水。
    不要约定不久后再次见面。你们都需要一段时间来习惯彼此分开并治疗创伤。不是说不能再做朋友了，只是给一点时间适应。
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    Done